Well, it has been a while since I blogged. I am loving raising my 5 and being the wife that God called me to be. I want this blog to be real, to be encouraging, and to be a forum to give information about raising kids. Therefore, if you have ideas about raising kids or thoughts, I would love to hear it. I have a another reason for writing this blog. I feel that God has led me to write a book about parenting. Therefore, as I research and write the book, I will share stories from our life that will end up in the book. Some of your blog comments may end up in the book as well(with your permission).
In the blogs, I will give encourgement as a Mom, Biblical knowledge as a Christian, and clinical advice as a Psychologist. Hey, you guys get the free advice that I charge my clients for. lol
Today's topic will be about honesty. As I was getting ready to leave the house yesterday, I noticed that something was missing from my purse. It was my mascara. I only wear three things on my face. I use eyeliner, mascara and lipstick. So, if one of those 3 are missing, I notice it quickly. I suspected that my 6 year old daughter that loves dress up took it. Oh, I forgot to mention that this is the 2nd mascara that has disappeared in 2 weeks. So, I asked her about it and she denied it. Therefore, I went to her room and searched. WOW WOW WOW!!!! Guess what I found in there. I started in her closet. I went to the back of the closet and found half eaten brownies, half eaten suzy Q's, candy wrappers, and other food items. I was amazed. I then searched the drawers and found more food and wrappers. We have a very strict rule in our house. Food is only consumed in the kitchen. NO FOOD OR DRINK is allowed in other part of the house. PERIOD!!!! So, she knew she was BUSTED and in BIG TROUBLE. After the enitre family helped her clean her crumbs, food wrappers and food for an hour, I asked everyone to leave her room. I talked to her about being sneaky and dishonest. I then SPANKED her. Yes. I did. God's Word is very clear about not sparing the rod. And I do not spare the rod. Proverbs 23:13-14 says, "Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod and deliver his soul from hell." After her spanking, she and I spent more time talking about how big God is. Even if you think that you are getting away with something, God sees you. Now, in our house, Mommy is never the end person with the discipline. Daddy then came in and talked with her. It is always good for both parents to be involved in discipline. This eliminates the inate desire to usurp and divide parents. This internal desire is as ancient as Adam and Eve and Cain and Abel. No matter what.....stay united in discipline. Here is a toughy....Even if you disagree with your spouse on the disciplinary action, never let the child know this. After the discipline is enacted, you can discuss your opposition in private. It is also very important that you make your child understand that they must answer to God. If they understand that God is watching their every move, they may begin to alter their behavior, if you have taught a proper reverence and fear of the Lord. Remain UNITED and ENCOURAGED!!!!!
Love,
Blessed Mom of Five
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Michelle my 6 year old has learned to lie as well, knowing that we're not the only one's going through this give's us hope. The way that you approached the situation was very informative for us, the next time my husband and I encounter this issue were going to try your approach. Thank you and Love you.
ReplyDeleteYour Sister in Christ JuaQuita.
JuaQuita,
ReplyDeleteI am sooooo excited that you responded. I will pray for you and James as you raise your 4.
Excellent job again. I was glad you mentioned the talking to a child after discipline. We make sure we stress to our kids after a spanking how much we love them. The parental upbringing of a child should always have quick restoration between the parent and child. Discipline should be addressed as soon as possible, but peace should soon follow. We do not practice time outs or long periods of punishment because we ask them to repent to God who forgives them and apologize to us for there trepasses. The same holds for me and Menya if we wrong them. I read once in a book that long periods of time outs of punishments do not communicate the discipline of God, they communicate the isolation and exile of hell. Thanks for this vital endeavor in the Body of Christ.
ReplyDeleteWe love you guys and pray for you daily.
Grace and Peace
In Jesus
Hi Michelle,
ReplyDeleteI am so excited to be reading your blogs and connected with you. The one of honesty I truly appreciated, as many times I find myself conflicted on how to deliver the consequence for misbehaving. Thank you for your guidance ~ you are a true light.
Goranka