Approximately 9 years ago, I remember sitting in Sunday school and my eyes being opened. My Pastor, Pastor Belton was teaching the class on that day and talked about the nurturing process for children. He indicated that although he has 3 children, he takes time to take each child out individually for one on one time. At the time, we only had one child and I thought that this was a task that I could accomplish. It is only when I fast forward 9 years that I see the true implication of this statement.
The Bible says in Deuteronomy 6:6-9 ,"And these words which I command to you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates." This commands us to teach our children in the home and outside of the home, from the morning until night. Our children our watching every step, every breath that we take. My 2 sons love to come home and put on their sweat pants and have a bare chest. Why? It is what Daddy does. My oldest son loves to play chess. Why? It is what Daddy does. My oldest son carries his Bible around with him throughout the house. Why? It is what Daddy does. My girls love to make the house comfortable. Why? It is what Mommy does. My girls love to organize things. Why? I am not sure on that one. lol. It is because Mommy does. The point is that our same sex children are taking their cues from us as to how to become a Lady or a Man. What do they see in you or Who do they see in you? Are your children selfish or selfless? Are your children loving or loveless? We had to examine ourselves and ask these questions.
Last Saturday, we had our typical Girl Day and Boy Day at the White House. We started this about 6 months ago and our kids love it. Once a month on a Saturday, the boys take several hours by themselves and the girls take several hours by ourselves. On this particular Saturday, Paul and the boys went to a baseball game, visited Nana and Papa and then went to a game store. The girls and I stayed in and had a tea party. We played Uno spin and the Wii. It was an awesome time to allow them to experience their parent as a Man or a Woman. We were able to talk about subjects that each may find uncomfortable talking about in front of the opposite sex.
God has given you the charge and responsibility to raise your children. Spending time with them is the best gift that you can give them. You learn so much about them and you also learn how to be a better parent from them. Your mission this week(if you so choose to accept) is to make time for your children. It can be a girls day, boys day or individual time. I leave you with this thought. When your child is your age and he or she looks back at their life, they remember the TIME SPENT with you, more than any trip, gift or token that you could give. As always, Remain united and encouraged.
Love ya'll
Blessed Mommy of 5
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Saturday, August 22, 2009
HONESTY!!!!!!
Well, it has been a while since I blogged. I am loving raising my 5 and being the wife that God called me to be. I want this blog to be real, to be encouraging, and to be a forum to give information about raising kids. Therefore, if you have ideas about raising kids or thoughts, I would love to hear it. I have a another reason for writing this blog. I feel that God has led me to write a book about parenting. Therefore, as I research and write the book, I will share stories from our life that will end up in the book. Some of your blog comments may end up in the book as well(with your permission).
In the blogs, I will give encourgement as a Mom, Biblical knowledge as a Christian, and clinical advice as a Psychologist. Hey, you guys get the free advice that I charge my clients for. lol
Today's topic will be about honesty. As I was getting ready to leave the house yesterday, I noticed that something was missing from my purse. It was my mascara. I only wear three things on my face. I use eyeliner, mascara and lipstick. So, if one of those 3 are missing, I notice it quickly. I suspected that my 6 year old daughter that loves dress up took it. Oh, I forgot to mention that this is the 2nd mascara that has disappeared in 2 weeks. So, I asked her about it and she denied it. Therefore, I went to her room and searched. WOW WOW WOW!!!! Guess what I found in there. I started in her closet. I went to the back of the closet and found half eaten brownies, half eaten suzy Q's, candy wrappers, and other food items. I was amazed. I then searched the drawers and found more food and wrappers. We have a very strict rule in our house. Food is only consumed in the kitchen. NO FOOD OR DRINK is allowed in other part of the house. PERIOD!!!! So, she knew she was BUSTED and in BIG TROUBLE. After the enitre family helped her clean her crumbs, food wrappers and food for an hour, I asked everyone to leave her room. I talked to her about being sneaky and dishonest. I then SPANKED her. Yes. I did. God's Word is very clear about not sparing the rod. And I do not spare the rod. Proverbs 23:13-14 says, "Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod and deliver his soul from hell." After her spanking, she and I spent more time talking about how big God is. Even if you think that you are getting away with something, God sees you. Now, in our house, Mommy is never the end person with the discipline. Daddy then came in and talked with her. It is always good for both parents to be involved in discipline. This eliminates the inate desire to usurp and divide parents. This internal desire is as ancient as Adam and Eve and Cain and Abel. No matter what.....stay united in discipline. Here is a toughy....Even if you disagree with your spouse on the disciplinary action, never let the child know this. After the discipline is enacted, you can discuss your opposition in private. It is also very important that you make your child understand that they must answer to God. If they understand that God is watching their every move, they may begin to alter their behavior, if you have taught a proper reverence and fear of the Lord. Remain UNITED and ENCOURAGED!!!!!
Love,
Blessed Mom of Five
In the blogs, I will give encourgement as a Mom, Biblical knowledge as a Christian, and clinical advice as a Psychologist. Hey, you guys get the free advice that I charge my clients for. lol
Today's topic will be about honesty. As I was getting ready to leave the house yesterday, I noticed that something was missing from my purse. It was my mascara. I only wear three things on my face. I use eyeliner, mascara and lipstick. So, if one of those 3 are missing, I notice it quickly. I suspected that my 6 year old daughter that loves dress up took it. Oh, I forgot to mention that this is the 2nd mascara that has disappeared in 2 weeks. So, I asked her about it and she denied it. Therefore, I went to her room and searched. WOW WOW WOW!!!! Guess what I found in there. I started in her closet. I went to the back of the closet and found half eaten brownies, half eaten suzy Q's, candy wrappers, and other food items. I was amazed. I then searched the drawers and found more food and wrappers. We have a very strict rule in our house. Food is only consumed in the kitchen. NO FOOD OR DRINK is allowed in other part of the house. PERIOD!!!! So, she knew she was BUSTED and in BIG TROUBLE. After the enitre family helped her clean her crumbs, food wrappers and food for an hour, I asked everyone to leave her room. I talked to her about being sneaky and dishonest. I then SPANKED her. Yes. I did. God's Word is very clear about not sparing the rod. And I do not spare the rod. Proverbs 23:13-14 says, "Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod and deliver his soul from hell." After her spanking, she and I spent more time talking about how big God is. Even if you think that you are getting away with something, God sees you. Now, in our house, Mommy is never the end person with the discipline. Daddy then came in and talked with her. It is always good for both parents to be involved in discipline. This eliminates the inate desire to usurp and divide parents. This internal desire is as ancient as Adam and Eve and Cain and Abel. No matter what.....stay united in discipline. Here is a toughy....Even if you disagree with your spouse on the disciplinary action, never let the child know this. After the discipline is enacted, you can discuss your opposition in private. It is also very important that you make your child understand that they must answer to God. If they understand that God is watching their every move, they may begin to alter their behavior, if you have taught a proper reverence and fear of the Lord. Remain UNITED and ENCOURAGED!!!!!
Love,
Blessed Mom of Five
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